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The funeral director's job is to assist the bereaved in various ways to help them through the loss of a loved one. A funeral director provides bereavement and consolation services for the living, in addition to making arrangements for the cremation, burial, and memorial services for the deceased. He fulfills the role of funeral arranger, funeral director, funeral attendant, and embalmer.

The following list is not all-inclusive, but describes some of the major tasks of a funeral director: 

•     Removal and transfer of the deceased from the place of death to the funeral home
•     Professional care of the deceased, including embalming, casketing, and cosmetology
•     Consulting with family to make arrangements for the funeral service
•     Filing certificates, permits, and other required forms
•     Obtaining copies of the death certificate
•     Arrangements with the cemetery, crematory, or other places of final disposition
•     Creates and publishes the obituary
•     Arrangements for clergy, music, flowers, transportation, pallbearers, and special fraternal or military services
•     Directs and manages the funeral service and the funeral procession
•     Assists the family with death-related claims, including Social Security, VA insurance, grief counseling

A traditional funeral involves a number of services which add to the total cost. Besides a non-declinable basic services fee, other charges may include removal/transfer of the body to the funeral home; embalming; other preparation of the body; use of facilities and staff for viewing; use of facilities and staff for the funeral ceremony; use of a hearse, service car, or van; a basic memorial printed package; metal casket, a vault or grave liner, and purchase of a cemetery plot.

A funeral or memorial service provides an opportunity for the living to show respect for the deceased and pay tribute to their life. It provides a framework to freely and openly express our beliefs, feelings, and thoughts about the death of our loved one. It gives us permission to grieve our loss, share in solidarity, and gain strength from others who are experiencing the same loss.

The four main types of funeral services include the traditional funeral service, the memorial service, the committal service, and the affirmation or celebration of life service.

Yes, cremation or burial is merely the disposition of the body. Funeral services are to honor and remember your loved one, regardless of disposition.

Pre-arranging funeral services can be done regardless of the final disposition. Pre-arranging is simply recording your wishes with the funeral home and prefunding if you choose to do so.

• Advance Directives - If the deceased left any written advance directives concerning the disposition of his remains and memorialization, you need to bring them with you. These instructions may be found in a will, or there may be a formally witnessed disposition directive, funeral pre-arrangements, or a pre-need contract.
• Military Discharge Papers
• Details on any cemetery property owned by the deceased or the family (grave plot, columbarium space, etc.)
• Recent photograph of the deceased and any personal effects that you wish to be included in the viewing or burial
• Specific information on the deceased: 
•     Full legal name
•     Address
•     Marital status
•     Social Security number
•     Date of birth
•     Place of birth (city and state)
•     Educational history (number of years of schooling)
•     Armed Forces service dates and serial number
•     Occupation or profession
•     Parent's names, including mother's maiden name
•     Next of kin and other survivors

In Colorado, the law follows a specific "hierarchy" or order of priority. It starts with any written instructions you left behind. If you didn't leave a written plan, the right passes to your legal representative, then your surviving spouse, followed by a majority of your adult children, your parents, and finally your siblings.

If a group of people (like adult children or siblings) has the legal right to decide, Colorado law requires a majority to agree. If the family is evenly split or cannot reach a majority decision, the funeral home must wait until the dispute is resolved. Often, this requires a court order from a probate judge to determine who can move forward.

Yes. To ensure a timely and respectful disposition, the law sets specific deadlines. A person is legally presumed "unwilling or unable" to act if they do not make arrangements within 5 days of being notified of the death, or within 10 days of the date of death—whichever comes first. At that point, the legal right automatically passes to the next person on the priority list.

Absolutely. You can complete a legal document called a "Declaration for Disposition of Last Remains." In this document, you can name a specific "Designated Beneficiary" or agent to carry out your wishes. This person’s authority will legally override your next of kin, ensuring your wishes are followed by someone you trust.

The person who signs the contract and exercises the "Right of Disposition" is generally the person who assumes financial responsibility. However, the law also allows the right of disposition to pass to anyone who is simply "willing to assume legal and financial responsibility" if no other family members are able or willing to step forward.